When husbands love their wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her, they demonstrate the humble leadership of Jesus. When wives honor their husbands and "obey...without fear" (1 Peter 3:6), they demonstrate the trustful obedience of the Church to Christ's rule. There is harmony and grace in a marriage built on the Edenic order of creation-never abuse or disunity. But when we rebel against this order, we become the foolish women of Proverbs 14:1 and pull our houses down with our own hands.
The oneness described in Genesis pales in comparison to the inestimable oneness that will be experienced by us on that glorious day when our Groom returns for His spotless Bride (Ephesians 5:27).
Godly femininity complements masculinity-it brings wholeness to humanity. It doesn't compete. It doesn't seek its own glory but delights to see others succeed and earn praise. And in doing this, godly femininity receives the greatest praise of all from godly masculinity:Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Give her the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. (Proverbs 31:28-31)
These are bits and pieces taken from the co-authored book Passionate Housewives Desperate For God , written by Jennie Chancey.