Thursday, June 23, 2011

To Love Their Husbands

"The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."  Titus 2:3-5

 Here are several ways that the Lord has shown me to love my husband over the years:

~Enjoy fulfilling his most consuming passion.  If you are married then you most likely know that all men have a very strong need for intimacy.   It is the way God has designed them.  Once you are united, you become one flesh (Genesis 2:24).  His needs become your greatest priority.  Don't try to come up with excuses, instead show him you have much delight in him.

~Build him up.  A man needs to know that he is needed.  Tell him how good of a job he does at providing for his family's needs.  Build him up to your children.  Tell them how lucky you are to have such a fine husband, and them a great daddy.  Build him up to others.  Tell them what a great job he did on that project he just finished.

~Show him respect.  Don't belittle your man.  Don't speak unkindly about him to others and especially your children.  Show him you honor him by your words and attitudes.  Do they deserve it all the time?  Probably not, but neither do I deserve his love all of the time.

~Let his desires become your desires.  "Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man."  1 Corinthians 11:9.  Find out what your husband's desires are and help him fulfill them.  Does he like to eat at a certain time?  Try to have supper ready by then.  Does he want the children to process a certain character trait.  Start training them in that way.   Is he wanting to make the garden bigger?  Buy more canning jars at a garage sale. 

~Smile.  Do you remember how much you delighted in your man when you where first dating?  He fell in love with that genuine smile you wore every time he walked in the room.  Does he see that beautiful smile anymore or are you always stressed out from the kids when he walks into the house?  Show him you find pleasure in his presence by smiling when he walks into a room.  Even if you have to force it at first.  Make it a habit.  He loves to see your smile!!! 

Here are a few resources that have challenged me over the years:

She Shall Be Called Woman By: Victoria Botkin
Created To Be His Help Meet By: Debi Pearl
The Excellent Wife By: Martha Peace

 Linked up with : Raising Homemaker's and Consider The Lilies.


Cheesemakin' Mamma said...

These are really good reminders. Serving our husbands should definitely be our priority as wives.

So glad you liked the ice cream recipes! Blessings,

Kim said...

As women, I don't think we realize how much we can make or break our men. Our men need our respect and encouragement every minute to lead the family as God desires. We are one.

Thank you for this great post. You are a wise help-meet to treasure your husband and show him respect and honor.

Another great book is: For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn.


Janelle said...

Love this post! It's interesting how we all figure out the same things in search of a strong marriage and a happy husband.

It turns out, I really do enjoy doing things to make my husband happy. Then when he's happy, he wants to make me's a wonderful cycle!

Erin Ledbetter said...

I really enjoyed this post...great reminders! I am a new follower...look forward to more posts!


Julie Sunne said...

Great truths in this post. We can build him up or crush him so easily. Thanks for the reminders.

Ashlyn @ Consider the Lilies said...

Thanks so much for linking up! The tips you share are wonderful. Especially the one about showing him respect! I am featuring this post on our link up tomorrow! Stop by and grab our "I was featured button" Looking forward to reading more of your posts in the future:)